{"id":77,"date":"2015-04-30T21:59:40","date_gmt":"2015-04-30T21:59:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/datemarriedcougars.com\/?p=77"},"modified":"2016-01-28T05:49:48","modified_gmt":"2016-01-28T05:49:48","slug":"step8-writting-winning-affair-dating-intro-email","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datemarriedcougars.com\/blog\/step8-writting-winning-affair-dating-intro-email\/","title":{"rendered":"Step 8 \u2013 Writing a Killer Intro Email That Gets a 90% or Better Response Rate On An Affair Dating Site"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"StepA lot of men, even those who do a good job with their profiles, kill their chances to have an affair with a bored & lonely housewife with the ridiculously lame intro emails they send. This is one of those things that seems like it should be so simple, yet the reality is that most men get it all wrong! If you\u2019ve ever heard men pissing and moaning that sites like MILF Book aren\u2019t getting them laid, rest assured, it\u2019s not the site. It\u2019s them. And in all likelihood, it\u2019s what they\u2019re saying (or not saying) in these incredibly important first impression emails that is screwing them out of getting screwed. This isn\u2019t rocket science. A lot of it goes back to Step 1<\/span>, where we talked about the psychology of connecting with lonely housewives by knowing what they\u2019re thinking. Along with the information provided here, it\u2019s probably a good idea to re-read step one before you start sending off emails.<\/p>\n

We had a group of testers send out dozens of emails to women on the top 5 lonely housewife and affair dating sites, and kept track of what worked and what didn\u2019t. Here are some examples of emails that totally bombed with an explanation of why they didn\u2019t work. Women either didn\u2019t respond or send rude brush off responses to these guys, and none of them got the testers in the sack with even a single woman.<\/p>\n

Example Emails That Failed<\/h3>\n

Example #1<\/b>
\nI\u2019d love to take you out for dinner and then eat you for dessert. OMG, your profile pictures got me so hard. Just imagining my cock in between your enormous titties pushed me over the edge. Don\u2019t worry, though\u2026 I give as good as I get. I\u2019ll eat your dripping wet pussy until you cum harder than you\u2019ve ever cum before.<\/i><\/p>\n

Why Its Wrong<\/b>
\nHopefully you already know what\u2019s wrong with this, but if you don\u2019t, let me break it down for you. This dude comes across as a totally immature pervert. He sounds like a horny fourteen year old boy trying to lose his virginity, not a grown man looking for an affair. This is going to be a total turn-off to married women.<\/p>\n

Example #2<\/b>
\nMy name is Dan. I\u2019m 32. I own a carwash. In my spare time I love going to Star Trek Conventions and spending time in nature. I\u2019m just a pretty average nice guy. I\u2019d like to meet a nice lady to spend some time with.<\/i><\/p>\n

Why Its Wrong<\/b>
\nSnore. Are your eyelids getting droopy? Yeah, that\u2019s what I thought. The woman reading this is probably half-comatose from boredom. He makes himself sound about as interesting as a documentary about mold.<<\/p>\n

Example #3<\/b>
\nDo you like a man who knows how to put a woman in her place? Do you fantasize about being battered and bruised? If you take your meals out of a dog bowl instead of at the table because you know you\u2019re not worthy to sit with the people, I\u2019ll put you in your place and keep you there. Submit to Master.<\/i><\/p>\n

Why Its Wrong<\/b>
\nSo let\u2019s say maybe this guy isn\u2019t actually a psychopath, he\u2019s just really into BDSM and plays the part well. In that case, he needs to get off the bored & lonely housewife sites and go look somewhere that caters to that fetish only. To most women, he is just going to sound terrifying and deranged. No woman wants to worry that her affair could take a dangerous turn. If you\u2019ve got some kinks, your profile might not be the place to delve into them. Wait until you\u2019re really talking, then tread gently and slowly to see if she\u2019s into it, too.<\/p>\n

Here are three examples of messages that worked exceptionally well for our testers. They had excellent success with these emails on Easy Sex<\/a>, Lonely Wives Club<\/a>, Freehookups Affairs Club<\/a>, and Hookup Cloud<\/a>.
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Example Emails That Succeeded: Feel Free to Copy\/Past & Use Yourself<\/h3>\n

Example #1<\/b>
\nMy name is Eric, and I\u2019m a firefighter, triathlon competitor, and a guitarist. Even though I\u2019m a busy guy, when I saw your profile, I knew that I had to see if you\u2019d like to meet for drinks. It was the sparkle in your amazing green eyes that really got to me, but when I saw that you play mandolin, that sealed the deal. Most women on here don\u2019t post anything like that about themselves, and I liked it that you shared more than the fact that you were looking for an affair. I like to feel like I\u2019m getting to know someone before I go there, you know what I mean?<\/p>\n

Why Its Right<\/b>
\nHe wrote that he\u2019s a firefighter, an athlete, and a musician. He humanized himself, and just so happened to do it using things that women find sexy. He personalized it by mentioning her eye color and the instrument she plays, so she knows it isn\u2019t a form email he sends to everyone. And he wrapped it up by saying her likes to get to know women a bit before he sleeps with them. No wonder he scored so often with variations on this email!<\/p>\n

Example #2<\/b>
\nWhen I saw your profile, I thought you were so beautiful, you were probably out of my league. Then I looked at some of the other guys\u2019 profiles on here and decided I had to contact you. You seem far too intelligent and lovely to have to settle for creepy old men or perverted frat boys, so I figured it was worth a shot! I\u2019m 41, married, discreet, I shower every day, and I won\u2019t send you messages that look like porn scripts. If you\u2019d like to meet up this weekend, I promise I\u2019ll continue the trend by showing up clean-cut and behaving like a gentleman.<\/p>\n

Why Its Right<\/b>
\nThis one works well because the writer shows empathy. He knows she must be fed up with dealing with gross guys. He lets her know he won\u2019t be one of them, offering a sense of safety and respect.<\/p>\n

Example #3<\/b>
\nI know this is going to sound crazy, but I think that you\u2019re my New Year\u2019s Resolution! My resolution was to find a beautiful woman with auburn hair, blue eyes, intelligence, and a great sense of humor to spend time with. I even wrote it down. And then, there you were! If you\u2019d like to meet, we can celebrate like it\u2019s New Year\u2019s Eve. So what if we\u2019re a little bit late? It\u2019s always a good time for a party! Let me know if you\u2019re free this weekend, I\u2019d love to buy you a drink.<\/p>\n

Why Its Right<\/b>
\nIf you\u2019re thinking this seems cheesy, you\u2019re right. It is. But it\u2019s endearingly cheesy, because it\u2019s got a touch of romantic\/magical thinking, which women love.<\/p>\n

Stick to writing emails like the last three examples<\/strong>, and your success rate will be better than 90%<\/span> for the women you contact with them. Unless you write for a living, there\u2019s no reason to reinvent the wheel. Stick with what works. Just make sure to change them up a bit to make them personal.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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